找回自信的9个方法

Confidence is essential to survival. If you’re a man, you can’t even attract a mate without it, as women (and even gay men) are attracted to tenacity. There are times, however, when a devastating or unexpected loss can sap you of your poise. If you’re down, here’s how to get confidence back into your system so you’re ready to take on the world again.

自信是生存的根本，要是一个男人，要是没有自信，甚至没办法吸引异性，因为女性（甚至是同性恋）通常都会被别人那种顽强的精神所吸引。但是，有时候，生活中一些极具杀伤力的，毫无征兆的东西的失去也会削弱我们自信心。要是你低沉了，这里提供了一些让你重拾自信的方法，让你重归正常的生活。

Find Your Comfort Zone 找到你自己的安乐窝

Everyone has a comfort zone, whether it’s food, music, art, a favorite book, movie, TV show, a specific geographic location or group of people. Whatever it is that makes you feel comfortable, get into that zone. You’re not there to hide from your problems or dwell on them. You’re there to recharge; just like your muscles and mind need time to recharge, so does your mood. Take a staycation in your comfort zone to regain your composure.

每个人都有一个安乐窝，不管是否是食物、音乐、艺术、一本喜欢的书、电影、电视节目、一个特殊的地方或者是那样的一些人。不管是什么让你感觉到舒坦，走到你的安乐窝里去吧。在这里你不会隐藏你的问题，不会任其发展。在这里你可以让自己获得新生，就像你的身体，你的心灵需要时间来自我修复，你的心情也是需要的。在你的安乐窝里平静自己吧。

Change Your Thoughts 改变你的思维

Actively make a conscious decision to change your thought processes. Every time you doubt yourself, counter those thoughts with ways you can overcome. Remember most of your problems are in your head. That’s not to say they don’t exist – merely that you’re allowing them to affect you. Stand up to and for yourself, and you’ll learn ways to stand up to and for everyone else.

改变你的思维过程就从积极主动地做出最理性的决定开始吧。每次都怀疑自己，列举一下这些能够战胜自己的方式吧。记住，你大部分的问题都不在于你的脑袋。那也并不是谁他们不存在---仅仅是因为你让这些问题在影响你。站起来，为了你自己，然后你会学着站起来，为了别人。

Smile Like You Mean It 发自内心的微笑

A smile goes a long way. Even if you’re not fully sure of yourself, you’ll exude a sureness that encourages people to perceive you as a confident person. You’ll be seen as a leader rather than a follower, and things will be more likely to go your way. The media portrays Special Forces soldiers as killing machines, but one of their most used weapons is a friendly smile. Diplomacy is strong, so put a smile on your face, and make the world a better place.

微笑有很长的一段路要走。即使不相信你自己，你会散发出一种鼓舞人心的自信，让人认为你是个自信的人。你会被认为是一个领导者而非一个追随者，事情也可能会按着你所期望的方向发展。媒体将特种兵描绘成一种杀人的机器，但是最致命的“武器”都还只是一个友好的微笑。外交很重要，但是面带微笑也能让世界变得更美好。

Don’t Slouch! 切忌懒散

Your posture and the way you carry yourself goes a long way in determining your appearance. If you’re slouched over, people assume you’re weaker. This is how nature works – every plant and animal species on this planet understands survival of the fittest, and you need to look like you’re fit. Make an effort to sit up and stand up straight and tall.

你的姿势，你穿衣打扮的方式都会决定你的外在形象。要是你穿得很邋遢，人们会认为你就是个弱者。这就是自然法则--在这个星球上的植物、动物都明白的道理，你也需要让自己看起来不错。尽力坐好，站直，站得高。

Take Baby Steps 慢慢来

Everything happens in steps. Don’t get discouraged if there’s no magical change that suddenly makes you confident. Focus on your path, and understand it’ll take baby steps to get where you want. You’ll soon be taking baby steps from confidence to full-on success in life.

每件事的发生发展都不是一蹴而就的。要是没有发生什么奇迹让你获得自信也不要气馁。看看你选择的道路，明白事情会按着你预期的那样一步一步的发展。从自信到大获全胜你的一步一步的慢慢来。

Clean Yourself Up 整理好自己

Cleanliness is close to godliness (or so I’ve heard). Hygiene is vital to your confidence – it’s hard to feel good about yourself when you’re stained, sweaty and smelly. No matter what your circumstances in life are, do your best to stay clean, as it’s the key to your confidence.

干净接近于虔诚。干净是获得自信的关键---脏兮兮、汗涔涔、臭熏熏的时候是不大可能会很自信的。不管是在哪种情况下，尽力让自己保持干净清爽，因为这是自信的关键。

Face Your Fears 面对自己的恐惧

Everyone has a list of fears and phobias, although many don’t want to admit it. I’m afraid of snakes, spiders, heights, loss of control, drowning, the dark, other people, and just about everything under the sun. I’m even afraid of the sun since I have moles and have a high melanoma risk. These are natural fears that everyone has on some level or another – it’s a fear of death and the unknown. Face at least one of your fears. When you survive, you’ll be that much more confident.

也许都不愿意承认，但是很多人都有害怕的东西。我就怕蛇、怕蜘蛛、恐高、害怕不能自控、害怕溺水、怕黑、也害怕一些人、似乎害怕在阳光下的一切。自从长斑，知道容易得黑色素瘤之后，我甚至还害怕阳光。这是很正常的，每个人都会有这样那样的恐惧----害怕死亡、害怕一切未知的东西。最起码要正视你的恐惧。当你战胜了你的恐惧之后，你会更加的自信。

Define Yourself 定义自己

You are your present choices. Your past decisions and future aspirations determine how your present choices are perceived, but you are your present choices. Learn how to define yourself. Set your rules and boundaries and follow them. These are your morals and ethics, and they’re the foundation of who you are. Never forget that.

你可以决定当下。你的过去，你对未来的期望会决定你目前的选择，但是你可以决定现在要怎么做。学着如何定义自己。给自己制定规则，然后按着自己的规定来做。这是你的伦理道德原则，他们能够决定你是怎样的一个人。不要忘记。

Live In The Present 活在当下

Learn to appreciate everything around you. By practicing gratitude, you’ll change your perspective. Instead of being upset about losing an important client or failing a test, you’ll be grateful for the air you breathe, the water you drink, the food you eat, and the people you love. Focus on the now, because it’s all you truly have.

学会珍惜你目前拥有的一切。学着感激，你的视角也会有所改变。与其因为失去了一位重要的客户、搞砸了一次考试而郁闷，还不如感激你现在还有空气可以呼吸，还有谁可以喝、还有食物可以吃、还有你爱的人。关注现在，因为这是你真正拥有的。