reflection

Intimidation and flogging are useful in the short term, but they only temporarily suppress the child's nature, and on the contrary cultivate his hatred; In the short term, using candy to reward or a child's attention will be useful, but this is only a kind of materialistic pleasure to replace the pain of materialistic desire, which will only make the child continue to solidify the psychology of greed and hatred. Now hold it down, and at some later time it will burst out in a more intense way. So Locke says the most important thing is to cultivate a child's sense of honor and shame, that the child is treated with the respect and appreciation of the people he depends on, that he feels happier than he does with candy, that when he sees good behavior, he should give proper praise, and when he sees bad behavior, he shows coldness. In the long run, we must achieve one goal: Let the child love his reputation and be happy for it, let the child's natural desires play an active role in promoting the development of virtue and make the child love virtue. If a thing makes people around him despise themselves, and a child is good at imitating, he will naturally dislike it. This is the importance of a good environment.