To love and to grow up
Redemption and thinking about love, perception and experience about growth. <The Little Prince> is neither a fairytale for children, nor a reading process full of discover,explore or surprise. It is a story about experience and toughening of heart, a regression road for people who have lost. The author Antoine de Saint-Exupery is a writer and a pilot who died of a plane crash as well as his infinite desire for freedom and imagination. I regard this book as a philosophy fairytale, thought the author raise some questions and answer them with the simplest logical thinking, and let us have a dialogue with the child who likes in our heart. In fact, only grown-ups can have a true comprehension of the book.
Emotion is the most mysterious, elusive thing that we couldn't resist from of old. People without emotion are no different from worms wriggling in grass or vegetation growing lifelessly. Therefore, the little prince is lucky. He is capable to love. He loves the rose,the unique, feminine, enchanting rose. She is a rose so gorgeous and so fragile that she must look for a shelter to live. He loves her with all his heart, worship her with careful and faith, only to find that she is too proud. She kept being hypercritical and caused so much trouble to get his attention. They both went through a time with inner floundering and confrontation. The rose's pride, elusive insouciant way is to blame for the tragedy. And little prince is too young to understand the meaning of love.
We have to say, for personal love, it is an extraordinary unfortunately ending. In real life, there are a large amount of royal lovers, who missed the right person and lost in fate. And magically, there are similar patterns in the reason why we lose a person who is important to us. Pride, wrong expression, paranoid decision, sentimental, these are the reason why we lost our enthusiasm in the end. However the reason in essence is one's blind faith towards relationship and ignorant perceivable exploration of self-awareness.
It's not rare that an excessive rich spiritual world often clouds one's discretion and cognition, which happens especially in a stable relationship. Any physical or mental behavior that involves more than one person is never as free as being alone. It is human being's complicated way of thinking leads to a special phenomenon that people always unconsciously choose the easier way, which is escapism and self deceive, when facing emotionally dispute. When it comes to love, which is believed as the most complex human emotion, things can be even more blind and ineffable.
Escapism and self deceive is an irresponsible behavior no matter for whom. I t results in little prince's departure, let him made a immature decision with disappointment. Maybe little prince never understand the meaning of love, he didn't keep a good mentality or find his position in a stable relationship. And rose's excessive expectation towards love, leads to deprive of her auto gnosis. She fatuously and be totally willing to lose the ability to love.
Poet, painter, sculptor, calligrapher, the reason why they are called "artist" is that they have an unbelievable imagination and creativity. They have a exquisite perceptual knowledge, the most subtle reflections and almost have no rational and continence during creation. It is believed that genius is partly insane. This kind of extreme enthusiasm is not a result from months and years practicing, it comes from your soul, and it is an attitude to keep faith in art. However if one insist on pursuing perfection or the purest feeling from beginng to the end, he will find himself lost in reality. I do think that the idea of restrain somehow shows respect to the real world. People who are capable to restrain themselves in front of their passionate, enthusiasm, fiery desires, are those who have a strong ability of self-control.
The word "self-control" is related to negative, pessimistic mood in the subconscious. Therefore, I'd like to
use the word "self-discipline". The rose's characteristic is similar to people who lost self-discipline and confident. She wanted to show off her value and rarity so much that she even didn't notice she has lost her mind. The main thing one is short off is the thing one most frequently shows off. Sadly she is ruined by her own desire and it is too late to regret. It is thus clear that learning to control and stick to yourself when facing deep affections or enterprises you love heartily is tough but necessary.
For universal love, love is not only a feeling belongs to yourself but also interactions between each other; it is not only an exploration inside your heart but also a way to get along with the world. It is a destined relation, a tie of great significant, an intangible rope ties up with each other. The word "tie" maybe means constraint and bind in the dictionary. However I consider it as a fastened concern, a positive word when it comes to emotion, a estimable bond. The fox says "Tame means to establish ties. If you tamed me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world."(<The Little Prince>) To establish ties means that you are ready to accept any possibilities. It means you will care for him, show him the true feelings and treasure him. You may get hurt of course, but you become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. And it is the time you have devoted to something that makes it so important.
Growth, a word we have been leaning and receiving since our birth. It seems to become a common knowledge that growth comes together with age. Whereas, just like not everyone have had a friend, we can say not everyone have experienced growth through their lifetime either.
We used to be ignorant of worldly affairs, enjoying our silly childhood as much as we like, so loyal to our true feelings, self-willed desires, live in our fantasy fearlessly. We were adventurers, prodigals who are eager for freedom, romantic poetries, and super heroes in our favorite TV program. Time elapse, we faced all the changes with age.
These years I have learned how to understand rules of the world, how to handle my subtle feelings, keep balance between rational and perceptual, even try to hide from a mask when necessary. Suddenly, I realized that the girl who used to earnestly counting stars, observe her father's hair, sing loudly without caring about what other people think, stealthily eating sugars her grandmother have hidden, playing with mud contently, take her grandfather's hand to cross the bridge, play with a piece of plastic from yard, even climbing a tree with the boys, had gone,forever. I can do nothing but breathe in and breathe out, as silent as a mute, when this horrible thought popped into my head.
We had to admit that time will never stop and childhood has gone permanently. However, shall we accept our innocence and pureness should disappear too?
I extremely admire comments in <The Sorrows of Young Werther> about this phenomenon. "What beings are men, whose whole thoughts are occupied with form and ceremony, who for years together devote their mental and physical exertions to the task of advancing themselves but one step, and endeavoring to occupy a higher place at the table. Not that such person would otherwise want employment: on the contrary, they give themsleves much trouble by neglecting important business gor such petty trifles."(<The Sorrows of Young Werther>) Even thought we haven't changed into a person terrifying like this, we had been pushed forward by these realistic thoughts.
We are more and more far away from nature, kindness, curiosity, real laughter that deep from heart, and unfortunately, the ability to enjoy moments with tiny happiness.
We are more and more away from the little prince.
Humanity is fragile and impressionable. If you stayed in an environment without human interest, you would forget what friendness or sense of trust is like; if you stayed in a world advocates non-natural and rational, you would forget the meaning of “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye, which is the essence of growth". Losing innocence is called "change", only finding back your innocent can be regarded as "growth".
Growth is not some brilliant foresights, not the price of being adults, and absolutely not a painful experience. It is your choice, to find back the child no longer lives in your heart. It is try to learn rules of the world but not obey them blindly, it is getting to know what is important and what is not. What really matters is the tie created by our spiritual world right from our heart. Family affection, love, friendship, there is nothing in the world as precious as them. If you were lucky enough to own them, please cherish and appreciate like a believer, because love is our ultimate belief.
What really matters is not the transcript you held in hand, it is the time you spent on studying, which modeled your ability to work hard and stay tough. What really matters is not other's compliments when you finished voluntary service, it is the time you experienced a different life at the first time, which made you to understand what is empathy, to realize how lucky you are and how to respect. What really matters is not a great number of pictures you posted online returned from your journey, it is the time you spent on the road, which shocked your soul, given you the ability to discover the beauty of nature, focused on how it feels, and made you realize how small you are, how abundant and fantastic can the world be. What really matters is neither wealth, power, applause, house or vehicle that you have been dreaming for nor judgements from others,it is your pursuit and exploration of self-awareness.
It is believed that some people died at 25, burried at 80. Your dream, insistent, passion towards life, your pursuit of beauty and love, people who support you out of your dilemma, time that you spend substantial and regretless, lessons you learned from every failure, these are evident confirmed you are alive.
To be considerate, stay weird, keep a ceremonial sense, seize the day and find the innocent you lost, these are what I called "growth".
Maybe the little prince had embarked on an irreversible journey at the beginning. It does not concerns me whether the little prince past away in the end. He lived on a planet where everything is so small, he had a gorgeous rose who loved him actually, he met various of people who may seemed ridiculous, he met a pilot to rely on, he tamed a fox who values him a lot, and above all, he learned a lot at this marvelous journey. You will hear his silvery laughter in the sky full of stars as long as you are still searching.
Read about love and growth and learned about what really matters, which is the affection and influence the book has vouchsafe me.
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