何时应该少说多听

Speaking and listening in a balanced way are imperative in our world. The noise of useless words that many of us are throwing away in an attempt to get a grip on someone else’s attention, creates a thick fog that makes it really difficult to actually understand each other. Ironically, the more we talk, the less we’re able to communicate.

听和说在我们生活中都是必不可少的。许多人说的一些无关紧要的话都是为了吸引别人的注意，说一些难以理解的话也只是让理解变得困难。可笑的是，我们说的越多，交流的就越少。

Read on about these 6 benefits of speaking less and listening more and improve the way you communicate with the world.

看看以下这些少说多做，提高交流技巧的方法吧。

Think Before You Speak

三思而后说

So obvious, yet so underused. Under the impulse of “taking the stage,” of speaking before the other one could make his moves, we often open our mouth without really knowing what we’re going to say. Sometimes we improvise and it may turn out right. But most of the time, we’re just shouting randomly about a topic, without any quality contribution to the conversation. The result: no one really listen to us.

道理很浅显，也很容易理解。为了“抢占说话先机”而先于别人说话前说出的话，往往都是没有弄明白我们将要说出什么内容时就开口了。有时通过临场的随机应变也能将事情处理好。但是，大多数时候，针对一个话题我们也只是胡侃，对这个谈话并没有实质性的内容。最后的结果就是：没有人会听我们说。

Take a deep breathe before you respond, no matter how “urgent” the answer may look. Think for a while. Keep in mind the thought that you really have has many options, not just one. Ponder and your answer will not only be well thought out but people will be more apt to listen.

不管你的这个答案看起来是多么的“紧急”，在回答之前先做个深呼吸，先想一会儿。当你脑袋里有很多选择时，把这些都牢记于心。思量再三之后，你的答案不仅是较为稳重，听众也更愿意倾听你的见解。

Listen Before Jumping To Conclusions

在得出结论前一定要仔细听

Again, the “need for speed” of our current world often forces us to simplify our interactions. Based on just a few words, or a few sentences, we often create a perspective on some thing or some person, which may simply be inaccurate because we didn’t take the time to actually listen.Really listening means not only giving to the other the time to finish his speech, but also the exercise of “borrowing” his perspective.

再者，当代社会“需求速度”的增长常常迫使我们是我们的互动简单化。因为几个字、几句话，我们通常都对某些人、某些事抱有期望，但是这可能是不准确的，因为我们并没有花时间去仔细听。 听不仅是给别人时间让他说完，也是锻炼我们“借用”他人的观点。

Get To Know Others Better 看到别人的长处

And that means doing things together, not only talking about things together. Getting up from the couch and do a short team jog, watching the sunset together, silently, playing a game, or having a meal. All these are actions that, apart from the main benefit of enjoying life, have also a secondary, very important outcome: they help you understand other people better.

意思是说一起做事，不仅是一起讨论。一起从沙发上站起，互相加油鼓劲，安安静静的一起看日落，做个小游戏，或者一起去吃饭。所有的这些都与享受生活不大相关，但却有一个很重要的影响：会帮你更好的了解他们。

Create A Better Reality

营造一个更好的现实生活

When you speak less, you do more. It’s obvious. Your focus switches from talking to doing. While talking and expressing your feelings is important, ‘doing’ is equally important. If you could refrain yourself from talking for 5 minutes a day, in a month you will have gained 30 days x 5 minutes = 150 minutes, 2 and a half hours for yourself. What would you do with this time?

说的越少，做的就越多。这是显而易见的。你的注意力是从说转换到做。当然交流和表达你自己是很重要的，“做”也一样重要。要是你每天少说5分钟，一个月就是30x5分钟=150分钟，给你自己多挣出了2个半小时，这部分时间你打算做些什么？

Whatever you want, of course. You can go to the gym, cook for your spouse, craft something in the garage, coach someone, help a neighbor, you name it. As long as your goal is to make the world a better place, doing will always beat speaking.

不管你是怎么想的，当然，你可以去体育馆锻炼，为你的的另一半准备一桌丰盛的饭菜，在车库里做些好东西，做别人的军师，帮助邻居，你来决定。只要你的目标是让世界变得更好，做总是比说好。

Write More

多写

It’s still a form of expressing yourself, but it has a few perks. If you write, you’re more accountable. Written words last more than spoken words. Also, you will clear your mind without the help of somebody else. Writing in a journal or blogging, as long as you follow the number one rule of this list, (“think before you do it”).

这也是一种表达你自己的方式，但是这也会有些小收获。要是你记下来了，你会变得更有责任心。写的至少多于说的。同样的，即使没有别人的帮助你也能保持心情愉悦。写日志或是发博客，只要你遵循了第一条原则（三思而行）

And when you’re writing, something very interesting will happen: you will be forced to “listen” to yourself. You will be exposed to your own thoughts and emotions. You will get to know yourself better. Or, to be more precise, you will start to discover who you are.

当你在书写的时候，也会发生些很有趣的事情：你不得不“听”你自己。你的思想和情感会真实的流露出来。你会更好的了解你自己，或者说，更简洁的说，你能更清楚的认识你自己。