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7 Signs It Is Time To Let Go2014-05-30

1.A person’s words and actions don’t match

一个人言行不一致的时候

So you thought you met the perfect romantic partner or the perfect friend. He or she might have “appeared” to be perfect for quite some time.But then somewhere along the way, you noticed his or her “perfect” facade was crumbling. He or she says one thing, but does something else. You can’t count on him or her. He or she exhausts and frustrates you. And he or she eventually becomes an “Energy Vampire” who sucks the life out of you. If this has happened to you with any people in your life, then it might be time to let them go.

你以为你遇到了最好的那个人,最好的朋友。他的“出现”在某一段时间来说还是不错的。但是过了一段时间以后,你发现他那些“很好的”行为有些变味儿了。他说的是一套,做的却是另一套。不能再指望他了。他让你觉得讨厌,让你觉得悲伤。最终会“吸食你精力”,毁掉你的生活。要是你的生活中有这样一些人,或许是该让她离开了。

2.Someone always expects you to be someone you are not

有些人总想要你变成你不喜欢的那样

Maybe your friend always wants you to go out and party with him or her, but you are more of a homebody. And if you are always doing what they want you to do, then you are repressing who you really are. Or maybe the guy you are dating expects you to be a stay-at-home mom if you get married, but you are more of a career woman. If you try to become something just because other people want you to live up to their expectations, then you won’t be happy. Stay true to yourself. Have conversations with them about it, but if you can’t come to a mutually satisfying agreement, then it could be time to let go.

也许你的朋友总想和你一起出去参加派对,但是你却比较喜欢待在家里。要是你一直做别人一直希望你做的,你会压抑你自己。要是你已经已婚了,而你的另一半希望你可以多照顾到家里,但是你却更希望自己成为一个事业型的女性。如果你是因为不想辜负别人的期望而尽力的去做着你不喜欢的事,你一定不会得到快乐。对自己诚实一点吧。就这些问题和他们好好谈谈,要是不能达成共识,也许也是时候该放手了。

3.You always feel like a victim

你总感觉像个受害者

People who have a “victim-mentality” think life happens to them and they don’t have any personal power to change things. This could not be farther from the truth. There is always something you can do to make your life better – you just have to believe it. Even if it’s changing your viewpoint about the situation, that will change how you feel. But if you are in a situation or a relationship in which you are always feeling like a victim, then you are not in a supportive environment. And it might be time to let go.

当不好的事情发生的时候,人人都有“受害者心理”,尽管这并不是事实,但是也无力改变。你总能做些事来改善你的生活--只要你相信就可以。即使你只是改变了对此事的看法,但这也能改变你的感觉。但要是在一段感情中,一件事情上,你总感觉自己是个受害者,那就说明你所处的环境于你无益,那就离开吧。

4.You constantly judge yourself or others for what happened in the past

你一直都是从过去已经发生的事情中认识自己,认识他人

You might be in a relationship or a situation in which one or more people wronged the other. If you keep holding on to resentment because of it, you are staying in a toxic environment. First, try to remove the resentment and judgement. But if you can’t seem to find a way to do that, then maybe it’s best to remove yourself from the situation altogether.

在一段感情中或者是在一件事情上,你可能错怪了别人。但要是你因此继续误解别人,那么你的境遇将会很不利。首先,试着摒弃那种看法,重新评价别人。但是要是你发现你自己似乎没法做到,那么最好还是让自己离开。

5.You are not growing and changing for the better

你并没有朝着好的方向发展

If you pair up your comfort zone (habit) with a toxic situation, then you are not growing and changing for the better. The only thing worse than being stagnant is moving backwards and becoming a worse person. If you have turned into a person even you don’t like, then get out.

要是你习惯性的活在对你无益的环境中,你不能向着好的方向发展。比停滞不前还要糟糕的情况就落后,变得越来越糟糕,要是你已经成了一个你自己都不喜欢的人,那么就赶紧改变一下吧。

6.You don’t like any current situation

你不喜欢现在

There are many people who are literally addicted to their pain. It’s almost like it has become their identity and they would be lost without it. Life is meant to be happy. So if you’re not enjoying your current situation, then it is alright to let go! It’s okay to leave. Really, it is. You don’t have to stay for any reason . But most other scenarios in life are optional.

有很多人都常常活在痛苦之中。似乎已经变成了他身份的一种象征,要是没有了这些痛苦反而还会不知所措。但是生活本应该是感受快乐。要是你没有好好地享受你眼下的这一分钟,那么时间就已经匆匆溜走了。走出来也好,真的。不必为了什么而留下来。但是其实生活中的很多事情都是可以选择的。

7.You are carrying around resentment

一直觉得不满

Carrying around resentment is like drinking poison hoping the other person will die. In other words, we think that not forgiving someone is going to “teach them a lesson.” So people hang on to their anger in hopes that other people will apologize and change their ways. But many times, the person who wronged you doesn’t even know you’re carrying around resentment. Or if they do, they may not care. So the only person you are really hurting is yourself. So it’s time to let go not only of the resentment, but the person or situation as well.

一直觉得不开心就像是个喝醉了酒就希望其他人都死光。换句话说就是:我们一直觉得不原谅别人就是在“给他们一个教训。”所以人们总是忍着怒气希望别人可以来给你道歉,然后再改变自己的做法。。但是大多数情况都是:你认为做错事的那个人并不知道你对他的不满。或许即使他们知道,但他们也并不在意。所以真正受伤的还是你自己。所以你不仅需要忘却你的不满,你也应该忘记那些人和事。

Letting go isn’t easy, but if you want to be happy, sometimes it’s necessary. So do yourself a favor – love yourself enough to let go. You will be better because of it.

放手并不容易,但是对于那些要想真正快乐的人却是必须要做到的。因此给你自己一个机会--好好爱你自己,让那些都随风逝去吧。要是你做到了,你一定会过得更好。

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