怎样做最真的自己

Most people appear confident when in reality, they want things that they can’t have, and feel badly about it. Everywhere I go, I see them talking about ignorance without realizing their projections and insecurities are manifested in what they say and how they act. They are clones, automatons, and they do just the opposite of what I am going to tell you to do below, wading through life without ever knowing how to be yourself. 

现实生活中,许多人都对自己充满了自信,但是一旦有东西得不到的时候,就会觉得很糟糕.每到一个地方,我看着周围的人完全没有意识到他们的言语，他们的行动会引发的一些问题。他们是克隆人、是机器人，他们做着的事与我想告知你的事是完全不相同的，不知道如何做真正的自己而一生都碌碌无为。

Find your passion. 找到你自己的兴趣爱好

My little brother has no passion, but he’s got likes. He likes food, girls, and alcohol. Unfortunately, he doesn’t want to get a job in these fields. Perhaps most of all, he likes to brood. I’m pushing him to become a philosopher, hoping that his preference for deep thought will help him make money. In the meantime, he’s going to finish college.

我弟弟就没有什么兴趣，但他有爱好。他喜欢吃的东西，喜欢美女，也喜欢酒。然而他不想在这些领域里找工作。也许大部分时候他喜欢沉思。我劝他去做一名哲学家，希望他的这一偏好能让他谋得一份工作，尽管现在，他大学都还没有毕业。

Be fearless. 无所畏惧

Fears are weaknesses. To be yourself, get rid of all fear in your life by facing it head on. Even if you fail, you should learn how to succeed next time.

害怕就是一种弱点。做你自己，在你的生活中，直面恐惧就能战胜恐惧。即使是失败了，你也应该学着下次要怎样才能成功。

Be kind to yourself. 好好对自己Judge less and appreciate more what you do and what you have done. Everyone has different talents and can help to leave the planet a better place than it was when they found it, which is really the goal of life. Even if your way of enhancing the world is to smile at strangers, that’s still worth a lot more than what some people offer.

无论是对自己正在做的事还是做过的事都要多给自己一点鼓励，少一点自责。每个人都有不同的才能，即使自己没有意识到，也能让你生活的这片土地变得更美好，这才是人生的目标。即使只是在路上对陌生人报以微笑，这也是值得给予他人的。

Accept failure. 接受失败

Fail faster to find success. It may take five years instead of ten, but as long as you stick with your failures and appreciate them, learning from your suffering, you will find that the core of who you are is stronger than ever.

失败容易成功难。也许不会花上10年也需要5年的时间，但是只要你坚持不懈的战胜失败，珍惜失败，从失败中总结经验，你会发现你其实已经比以前优秀很多。

Dream. 梦想

Dreams and goals are very similar. If you dream of achieving something, you can set goals to reach it. If you don’t dream, you will live an average life, indistinguishable from the crowd.

梦想和目标很相近。要是你梦想做成某件事，你可以通过给自己设立设立去实现你的梦想。要是你没有梦想，你就会想普通人一样过着普通的生活，完全与其他人无异。

Read.阅读

Some people think that reading isn’t as important as keeping up with their Neflix queue. They fail to realize that the brightest and best minds and most interesting experiences central to human experience have been put into writing for the past five thousand years. To learn more about yourself, spend some time alone with a book and tap into the richness of literature.

一些人认为阅读还不如看电影来得重要。他们没有认识到过去五千多年的最有影响力、最优秀的思想、以及最有趣的经历是通过写作记录下来的。多多了解自己，多花些时间看看书，这样你才可以进入最有有趣的文学世界。

Surround yourself with good people. 和一些不错的人交朋友

True friends are loyal and share your interests. They are willing to do more than gossip and talk aboutthings. Perhaps most important, good people are willing to make you feel better about yourself, without talking about how great they are. They will enjoy you not for being like them, but rather for knowing how to be yourself.

真正的朋友是对你很忠诚，与你有共同兴趣的人。他们愿意做的不只是和你讨论。也许真正的朋友是会让你感觉更自信，他们不会在你面前胡诌自己有多了不起。他们不是喜欢你而不喜欢自己，只是他们知道如何做自己。

Go against the grain. 不按常理出牌

Most people seek the comfort of a group. Usually, however, this does not teach you how to be yourself, but how to conform. Instead, think about what matters to you and do it—don’t care if everyone else disagrees.

大部分的人都是在寻找一种让自己感觉舒适的方式生活。但是，通常这样做都不会让你明白如何做你自己，而是怎样让自己过得更舒适。相反的，你应该想想什么对你来说更重要---即使别人不同意也不要在意。

Think about your clan. 想想你的亲人

What would your family think? By being close genetically to you, those who raised you or were there with you during tough times are good to turn to when in trouble. The values your family supports can translate to your own, especially on big issues you don’t know how to answer.

你的家人会怎么想？那些与你有亲属关系的人、那些养育了你的人、或者那些在你遇到困难时帮你化险为夷的人。尤其是在你遇到大问题却又不知道该怎么做时，亲人的支持能让你做真正的自己。

Travel. 旅行

Seeing how other people in the world live can help you appreciate what you have and what sets you apart. Plus, on any trip, you will come across challenges, such as communicating and getting to where you need to go on time. Traveling alone can force you to learn things about yourself you never knew existed.

看看世界上的其他人是如何生活的也能帮助你珍惜你所拥有的、珍惜那些你所放弃的。另外，在一段旅途中，你能战胜困难，比如你要按时去某个地方但又有交流障碍。独自旅行能让你了解到很多你以前从来不知道的东西。