没有恋爱也不要觉得寂寞

Connect to People with Similar Interests

和有着共同兴趣爱好的人交流

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, there are certain hobbies you have that you enjoy pursuing. You don’t need a partner to enjoy your hobbies – in fact, enjoying your life alone is the best way to meet people with similar interests.

不管你有没有恋爱，你肯定都有一些你很喜欢的兴趣爱好。你并不需要一个人来和你分享你的兴趣爱好--实际上，独自生活就是和那些与你有着共同爱好的人相遇的最好方式。

You may not want to attend a movie or hike a mountain on your own, but do it anyway. You’ll bump into people doing the same thing, and you can connect with them.

也许你并不想独自爬山、看电影，但是还是一个人那么做吧。你会遇见那些和你一样的人，你可以和他们成为朋友。

Talk to Senior Citizens

多和年老者交流

When was the last time you talked to a senior citizen? So many people push the elderly into retirement communities so they don’t have to deal with them. We’re so used to instant gratification that we hate having to slow down and listen.

上次和老者交流是什么时候？很多人都把老人送进了养老院，这样他们就不必照顾他们了。我们习惯了立刻就能获得满足的感觉，所以不愿意放慢脚步来倾听他们的诉说。

Spending time with the elderly and listening to their stories fulfills you and validates their experiences. It’s a win-win situation.

多和这些年长者待在一起，听听他们的故事，在生活中运用他们告诉你的经验。这是对双方都有利的事情。

Embrace the Challenge

接受挑战

Knowing how to get through adversity and actually doing it are two different things. It’s the execution that counts in life, and in order to properly execute, you’ll need to embrace the challenge of being single.

知道理论上应该如何度过难关和实际上操作起来完全就是两码事。生活中最重要的就是实践，为了能正确的实践，你必须独自接受挑战。

For every lonely night you spend crying, there’s an opportunity or adventure you couldn’t have taken if you were distracted by a relationship. Stop dwelling on what could, should, and has been. Instead focus on the now.

因为感情的破裂，在夜晚孤独的哭泣都会让你失去一些机会。不要活在过去，好好地关注现在。

Go on a Personal Journey

开始一场个人旅行

The best part about being alone is being able to discover your true self. When I was jumping from relationship to relationship, I was so busy introducing myself to someone and getting to know them that I never had a chance to grow and mature myself.

一个人的时候是真正能认识自我的时候。当我们恋爱了，我们就忙着给别人介绍我们自己，认识他人，然后就不会有时间留给自己成长，变得成熟了。

I went on a spiritual journey and reconnected with the things that are important to me, and I learned that I actually felt lonelier in those relationships than I did alone.

我曾给了自己一次精神上的旅行，重新找回了那些对我很重要的东西，我也认识到在感情中比我一个人的时候还要觉得孤独。

Dream for Your Future

梦想未来

When you’re in a relationship, your future is shared with someone. This makes things easier in that you have support, but it also forces you to compromise.

恋爱的时候，未来就是两个人的。虽然这会让你所要担负的事情变得简单，但是这也会让你学着妥协。

Stop being lonely solo and realize you have the power to do whatever you want without having to compromise. You can go all-out and focus 100% of your energy on yourself.

不要觉得自己很孤独，你得意识你有能力不用学着妥协，去做你想要做的事。你可以很独立，你可以只关注你自己。

Contribute to Your Community

为自己的社区出点力

If you find yourself lacking in human companionship, volunteer in your community.

要是觉得自己没人陪，那就在社区里面做志愿者吧。

Instead of sitting around feeling bad for yourself, you can help others who are in need. Committing yourself to the betterment of society is a great way to fill any void in your life.

与其独自感伤，还不如帮助那些需要帮助的人。把自己的力量奉献给社会就是让自己充实起来的最好方式。

Loneliness can be difficult. When you’re used to being in relationships, you may not even know how to be single. There’s no shame in being alone – I’m 33, single, and not even working on changing that. If I can do it, so can you.

孤独很难熬。当你一直沉浸在恋爱中的时候，你也许不会知道单身的感觉是怎样的。独自一人也没什么丢人的---我已经33岁了，现在也没想着要有什么改变。要是我都做到了，相信你也可以。