如果家长或老师反映孩子总是不愿完成学校作业或家庭作业,或者根据对孩子智力潜能的直观判断而认为其在校表现低于期望,或是发现孩子在一段较长时期内一直抱怨“讨厌学校”或“讨厌阅读”,那么我们就应当让孩子接受评估,看其是否存在注意力缺陷或学习障碍。
这些孩子并不懒惰。你的孩子可能表现得焦虑、受挫、沮丧、分神或者愤怒,但这不是懒惰。作为一名心理学家,我经常向家长们解释:我的词典里没有“懒惰”这个词。“懒惰”最多只能用来描述,不能作为解释。
对于有学习障碍的孩子来说,做作业就像是拖着一只扭伤的脚踝跑步。尽管很痛苦,但是可以做到,而且他还会寻找方法逃避或推迟这种痛苦而令人沮丧的任务。
Every child whose parents or teachers report ongoing resistance to completing schoolwork or homework, whose performance in school is below expectations based on his parents’ or teachers’ intuitive assessment of his intellectual potential, and who complains that he “hates school” or “hates reading” over an extended period of time, should be evaluated for the presence of an attention or learning disorder.
These children are not lazy. Your child may be anxious, frustrated, discouraged, distracted or angry, but this is not laziness. I frequently explain to parents that, as a psychologist, the word lazy is not in my dictionary. Lazy, at best, is a description, not an explanation.
For children with learning difficulties, doing their homework is like running with a sprained ankle. It is possible, although painful, and he will look for ways to avoid or postpone this painful and discouraging task.
对许多孩子来说,写作业的过程与任何建设性活动一样,包含着各种挫败、沮丧和焦虑的时刻。如果家长首先能够理解孩子的挫折感和沮丧感,就能更好地帮助孩子学会克服挫折,并逐渐培养起他们的挫折耐受力和自我约束力。
又是一年开学季,让我们来听听儿童心理学家对这个问题提出了哪些好建议吧。
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- The battle over homework
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